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I'd be interested to know your thoughts on marrige? What's it mean to you? Do you feel that marrige changes your life? Do you think that people can live out of wedlock and still be happy?
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Well, I'm not even old enough to get married yet but I want to someday. Marriage does change your life because you now share your life with another person and you have to learn to compromise and work things out. You may love each othe but that doesn't mean you won't argue now and then. As for living out of wedlock, I don't have any problems with that. It's a good way for couples to get to know each other better in the home and to learn about all the little habits and quirks they have. And if they're doing it for convenience (my oparents live together before their marriage beccause nither of them could afford a place on their own) that's ok too.
I like everyone else think that marriage is a huge life changing thing, and that the couple should live together before it happens. This way they can get to know one an other before taking that next step. I think that marriage is a wonderful bond between two people, and that it should be taken very seriously.
Now, I may be in the miniority here, but I don't think marriage is necissary. To me, it's just for those who are insecure about their partner, and this will give them a sort of false asurance that their loved one will still around. Problem is, many marriages end in divorce, so obviously something is not working here. Also, a marriage lisence is just a piece of paper, it doesn't make you love or want to be with a certain person anymore than before you had it. If I love someone and care about someone, I don't need a peace of paper to tell me that I should be there for that person when they need me to, or that I should only sleep with that person, etc. However, as far as moving in before marriage goes, obviously if I don't feel marriage is necissary, I don't see a problem with 2 lovers living together. Besides, would you buy a car without test driving it? I mean, for sighted people, so all of you smart ass blindies can now no longer come back and say they wouldn't drive in the first place, or some such remark. Bottom line? It's not about what the piece of paper tells u to do, but what u feel u should do that determines your behavior. Hence the divorce rate being as high as it is. Marriage is over rated, sold by corporations, and generally a load of crap in my opinion.
Hey Scott. Now I have to disagree with yuou there. To me, marage signifies commitment, and becasue of my regilious beliefs, I think once in a marrage, you should stick in it no matter what. I do also agree in that you should take it very seriously, and dont' marry someone if you really sure it isn't right for you (IE, you aren't sure this'll be the person for you.) That's a topic I have very strong beliefs about and never b back down from those. Relationships in general I take serious, and think they lead twoard marrage. Maybe I'm just older t and wiser then some, or maybe I'm just in the minority here, but its how I see things. John
Yeah liek Krisme I'm totally not old enough to get married, I'm not even into dating at all yet, I'm just not ready. But I think marriage totally changes your life, and it's a very important decision you have to be careful about making. I feel that the couple should know each other for an extended period before they get married and I think that the best marriages have some arguments every so often. If fights didn't exist, I think everythign woudl be boring! Lol! But not really bad fights, I jsut mean playful teasing and like disagreeing and arguing like that you know? If that make sense. Lol.
Marriage means to me that the relationship is strong enough for both participants to think it'll last for ever. However when getting married, people should be aware that dumping people causes less hastle than divorcing people.
There's no real answer to this... I agree with everyone who've posted on this, in moderation. Obviously what's necessary for one, isn't for another, and that doesn't make one person right or wrong. I do agree that, sometimes, marriage isn't what some may call necessary. As far as divorce is concerned, I think for some people, it's too much of an easy way out. I believe that marriage can be a beautiful thing, providing it's not rushed in to and providing it is worked at. People can't just expect to get married and from then on in, to never have problems. Further more, I think divorce is used far to freely as a preventative measure, rather than people trying to work through problems. I think that, as a society, we've become far more impatient over the years and there are more things in place to let us be that way. Back in the middle ages, you didn't get divorced, you worked at your relationship. Also, how many couples rush in to getting married in the first place? If you took the time to get to know that person propperly, you'd know if you wanted to be with them all your life or not. I think it's a great shame. Nobody wants to try anymore.
I think that mariage is more than just a piece of paper. It might be symbolic, but it does mean that people are comitting them selvs to live together. Sure you can live together for ever without that certificate, but it makes it official and it's very nice to be able to call someone your wife/husband. I would like to get married in life, although chances of that at the moment are not very big, lol. Regarding devourcies there's too many of them happening these days because too many people marry to quickly without properlly getting to know each other.
But if marriage is just strong enough for the parties involved to think it will last forever, doesn't that defeat the purpose of marriage? I mean, if u both know u want to be together for the rest of your life, isn't getting married sort of counterproductive?
Sugar, beautifully said. People divorce as away to run from their problems. Marage, in my opinion, as nothing to do with your other half being afraid that'll you leave them. Marage has a much deeper meaning than that. You no longer live your life as two separate people. You swear your love to one another, your family, your friends, and, if you believe, God. Hence, you live life as one. Although, I have never been married , I'm looking forward to it. Of course, you'll have arguments, but, then again, who doesn't.
I think marriage is good, but you should not marry if you only know each other for about one year. Because it's hard to devorce when you're married, much more paper work thank if you're just together and you're not married. I still think marriage is changing our lives a lot, though.
Hmm, I think the person who said it is different fro everyone was right. I've been married for 5 years and we were together for 3 years before that; and I do mean living together. *smile* I expected some sorta change when we made our vowes, but honestly, there wasn't. I still loved him the way I did before we said I do. I still felt loved and wanted by him, and I still felt that we'd survive anything. The marriage was just a formality to keep certain factions happy; if you get my drift, but it didn't change us. Excuse typing, Jaws seems to no longer want to read correctly.
Wow, I haven't heard that a lot. I wish every marriage would be that way.
I agree that divorces can be a way to run from problems, but I do believe that people can change so drastically that they aren't in love anymore. Nothing's a guarantee in life, and that includes marriage, but certainly if I get married, I will make every effort to stay together. I also think that people who are engaged, but don't want to get married for whatever reason, can share the same level of commitment as married couples. I would like marriage to be about true love, connection and comfort. When I think about marriage, or any long term relationship, I think of growing/changing/learning together, and helping each other through hard times.